By: Dr. Gwen Smith
Different Views of Power
What does power mean to you? Is it money, authority or status achieved in life? For sure, power means different things to different people, but mostly it is identified by association with material things or status. People consider themselves to be powerful by virtue of physicality, things that are external to who they are; that is, separate and apart from who they are as an identity. However, this is a mistake.
The temporary status of this interpretation of power is clear as can be seen in some scenarios when people lose their material possessions only to lose their status as well. Clearly this interpretation is a fallacy.
Another view of power is authority, force or status. But these too don’t quite tell the story. Real power that produces positive results is the ability to effect changes regardless of status, material possessions and force. It’s not forceful and it’s also not ego-based. It’s that internal strength and grounding that evokes deep respect from those in the presence of it. It is lasting regardless of material possessions. This is real power.
Unless this special power is involved, authority, force and status power last only as long as those elements contributing to its power remain. They quickly dissipate, in the absence of this special power.
Why is it so special and timeless?
It is so because it is different, and no one can rob those who possess it of its impact on the lives that come across it. It is a different type of power, and it is totally independent of the extrinsic displays, though not mutually exclusive of it. It enhances, it creates, it’s peaceful and it promotes happiness, joy and freedom. It is attractive and people pay attention to it. It’s first internal, innate and personal and then from that source it flows out. This is personal power.
This type of power affords you the ability to stand on your own; freely making choices, and being confident in those choices regardless of others’ opinions. It is grounding and those who possess it are self-satisfied and respected for who they are. It cannot be taken away by anyone else, except those who possess it themselves.
How Can You Get This Type of Power
First, it’s great to know that it’s NOT esoteric. Anyone can acquire the gift, providing they are willing to allow the transformation to occur from within first. This transformation requires an innate awareness and constant assessing that produces a consciousness allowing one to create first from within before the power is manifested without.
In my upcoming book Power: Why You Don’t Have It, How To Get It, I’ll reveal how you can have this type of power in your life to really make a difference in where you would like to be and what you would like to achieve with others and also with your purpose in life. You’ll discover why you don’t have this type of power in your life, and how you can get it.
A Source of Personal Power—Being in Integrity With Yourself
In the meantime, consider this source of personal power: it comes from being true to you and being in integrity about the things you say you are going to do for YOURSELF. Yes, for you!
If you are the average person, you probably have fewer challenges keeping your word to others than you do to yourself. However, be aware that not keeping your word to yourself erodes SELF to its core, causing disempowering contexts from which you start to live your life. Each time you fail to fulfill on promises to yourself, it erodes your value of self even more. You are literally diminishing your view of SELF subconsciously. You chip away a piece at a time, until gradually the other areas of your life become infected, affected and wane in strength and confidence. Your power becomes dissipated, and you, defeated.
Think about this and really be transparent with yourself: how many times have you set a goal to achieve something in your life and not fulfilled on it, simply because you did not even bother to start? What do you think that did and continues to do to your beliefs in yourself and your abilities? It leaves you more and more powerless each time, and it spreads like an infectious disease, stripping you of your self-esteem and self-worth and consequently robbing you of your personal power. Isn’t that worth the time and effort to change?
How Can You Change That?
A simple way to start is by first recording what you said you will do then enlisting an accountability partner to help. Don’t try to do it on your own as you have already failed, multiple times at doing this! Look outside of yourself. First set what you say you’ll do in a structure to help remind you. An electronic device with a reminder alert is a great place to start.
Next, find a family member or a trusted friend who’ll assist you by holding you accountable to the timeline or task you committed to doing.
Many people have found that a coach is a great resource to help them achieve beyond what’s possible for them. Hiring an experienced performance coach that will not only support you in achieving your goals, but who will also help you chart your transformation of those habits into new skills that restore your self-confidence and consequently your personal power is highly recommended.
Start small and start immediately to create true power in your life by following through on your self-commitments and promises as much as you will to others. Notice how you feel once you start to honor yourself and fulfill on the promises made to SELF. Try it and discover!
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